I’ve been quiet for a while!
I wasn’t the most consistent poster to begin with, but I spent every day in April writing on my Facebook page about our girl for Autism Awareness Month–and it seemed like a posting overload! Then I got crazy busy with school and life, and now we’re here.
More than that, though, things have been pretty smooth sailing over here! We’ve seen some AMAZING progress with our girl and things are going really well overall. She’s started school and LOVES it, is talking up a 3-4 word sentence storm, and is making progress in some sensory areas.
The real point of my post, though, is to not really talk about Scarlett–but about Jaxon.
Friends, Jaxon is having a hard time lately. He loves Scarlett SO fiercely and often, she doesn’t/can’t reciprocate.
It breaks his heart.
For example, we go to bed every night and sing a song, say our prayers, and get tuck-ins. He asks every Scarlett every night to lay in bed with him while we sing, and every night she says no and gets into bed with Cora. He asked me the other night why she never wanted to lay with him and whether that meant that she didn’t love him.
This is starting to become a constant occurrence. He wants to hug her–she refuses. He wants to hold her hand–she’ll only hold Cora’s.
Sean and I haven’t really ever had the “autism” talk with our kids, it’s never really been something that’s necessary. Maybe that’s our failure as special needs parents–maybe we should’ve been talking about it all along. But J (and Cora both) have always been so little that it’s never really affected them emotionally much before now, autism has simply been part of their lives. However, J is older now, and is starting to care. And it’s a consistent care–he’s voiced concerns about why Scarlett doesn’t seem to love him several times in the last few weeks.
That being the case–how on earth do you explain this to a child? How do I explain what autism is and how it affects his sister in a way that he’ll understand? I’m open to suggestions if you have them, friends, and if not, pray for Sean and I as we determine how best to approach this conversation with sweet little son.